Welcome to 2019!

With the start of a new year, we all so often have set ourselves new goals for the next twelve months. Quit smoking; get a better paying job; lose weight; get married; travel more…. The list is endless.

Perhaps we can all aim for a more peaceful and happier year. There has been too much insanity throughout the past year – and beyond. If we approach the challenges that may arise during this new year with a different perspective, we might be able to rise above the violence, the hate and the distrust, and accept our collective responsibility in how this world is being shaped.

Are you the person you want to be with? If you can honestly look at yourself and say, ‘I am who I’ve been looking for’, then well done you!

If you can honestly admit to yourself that you are not in that category as it, there is no shame in that. What would be the real shame, is that you do not try. When it comes down to it, you are free to choose whatever path you so wish, but remember, you are not free from the consequences of your choice.

‘I am who I’ve been looking for’, it is about reminding yourself that:
• your actions do matter
• every time you judge others, you also are being judged
• you can’t control the actions of others, but you can control your own actions
• you need to focus on your behaviour
• it is ok for others to have their own opinions
• it is ok if someone looks different from you
• it is ok if they speak differently to you

That is OK.

What we don’t have the right to do is bully, threaten or harm others because of those differences or even because you are having a bad day.

‘I am who I’ve been looking for’.

We all have good days and we all have bad days, we, as individuals within the human race are actually not unique in this respect. We all have those good and bad days. It is how we choose to react that will shape us. Some people just want to engage you with angry words or deeds. You do not have to stoop to their level.

If you had the opportunity to meet you – to meet yourself – and see yourself through the perception of others, would you be the person you have been looking for? Would you be the type of person you would want to spend the rest of your life with? Would you be that person? If perhaps more people looked at themselves and their actions and were able to honestly answer ‘I am who I’ve been looking for’, then maybe – just maybe – this world might recover some sanity.